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I recently read Jen Hatmaker’s book For the Love and one of the chapters in her book was a letter written to her children. After reading Jen’s letter and tears were everywhere, I was truly inspired to write a letter to my own children. What better way to tell your children how much you love them and are blessed by them, then to write a beautiful letter spelled out, raw with words written just for them. I plan to write a couple more of these before they have fully grown up and moved out of the house. So here it goes……My first love letter to them because I don’t always get a chance to tell them how much they mean to me.
Dear Keith Kiddos,
As I write this letter to you, you are 6, 8 and 10 years old, and soon to be 6, 9 and 11 years old. We have two birthdays coming up in the next few days and months. With each passing year, we realize that time is ticking away and our days of influence over you are reducing. As I write this letter to you, Rea has 2363 days, Ky has 3094 days and Karis has 4189 days until graduation. This may seem like lots of days right now, but time goes by fast. Nevertheless, it is never too late to let you know what you mean to your Dad and I.
You see, I know that we tell you often how much we love you, but you just don’t fully get it yet. We love you so incredibly much!!! Our love and affections for you will never wind down or grow old. They are new each passing minute and our demonstration of love for you is a constant reminder of how much you mean to us. We truly are blessed to be your parents.
Our love for you is demonstrated most in the ways we sacrifice for you. We know that you didn’t ask to be brought into this world or that you really had no say in coming, but a parent’s sacrificial love for their child is a beautiful demonstration and parallelism of Christ’s love and sacrifice for His people. He is/was such a beautiful example and it is our prayer that throughout your lifetime, we can exhibit and display to you, that which Jesus already modeled for us all, as the greatest sacrifice to humankind. Himself. Hopefully when our days of raising you have come to a close, you will know that we loved you and gave of ourselves immensely.
W – We have huge dreams for you. Know that Daddy and I would forfeit any of our own hopes and aspirations to make your dreams a reality. We see in each of you a tremendous gifting that can only be handed down by a loving and generous Creator. We know that Father God has big plans for your life and those plans will be carried out in your everyday ordinary life of being uniquely you. Nobody else comes even remotely close to your style, personality, heart and uniqueness. (Jeremiah 29:11)
E – Embrace change. Time changes, people change, circumstances change and life is forever changing. One thing you need to always remember though, is that in the midst of so much change, God never changes. He is the same yesterday, today and forever. (Hebrews 13:8)
L – Love others knowing how much you, yourselves, are loved. Love is the greatest gift given. Let Christ’s love for you and for others be an example of how to love and accept others. Always remember “Agape.” It is the highest form of love and it should always be your example in how to love each other and those whom Christ has allowed in your sphere of influence.
O – Our hope is that you will always be true to who God made you to be. In a culture that has so many different sources and examples, it is easy to want to be like someone or something else. Know that it is okay and that it delights God’s heart for you to be who He made you to be. Always remember that He is the Grandest Artist of all time, the most creative and He knew what He was doing when He made you.
V – Voice and speak up for those who have no say or who have not found their voice just yet. You were blessed to be born into freedom. We hope that we have been an example of one who is fair and who remembers those less fortunate then we are. Remember that everyone needs an advocate. Stick up for the under dog, the lost, the bullied, the forgotten.
E – Esteem others more highly then yourself. In a world of self-centeredness it is super easy to get caught up in focusing on you. Christ walked around denying Himself and praying for others. There is no room for our own egos and our own pride, or being all puffed up.
Y – You’re noticed. Even when you think no one else is watching. God is always watching you. You would be surprised at who else sees you as well. Keep this in mind and don’t be deceived into believing that what you say or do does not matter. It does, so live with no regrets.
O – Our goal is to have modeled adequately for you the Fruits of the Spirit. Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness and Self-Control. I know that we have not been perfect at all the fruits, but we hope that we have taught you what they mean and how to go about demonstrating them.
U – Understand grace and mercy. It helps you to develop eyes for seeing pain and for loving others right where they are. Know that if you develop this quality early on in life, God will use your imperfections for His glory. He is great at taking the broken and making them whole again. Don’t be afraid to learn life lessons early on in your life. They are needed later in adulthood.
! – The exclamation point stands for and represents our showing excitement for you. We are excited to see where God will take you throughout your lifetime and where He has you right now. Love Jesus and love others, these are the two greatest commandments. Know that it is okay to be a Jesus Freak! Even when no else seems to be excited for Jesus, you can be.
We hope that someday you will also know the love a parent has for their child as you yourselves become parents. It is our prayer that we led by example and that you fully saw love spelled out for you.
As your Mamma, I hope to look back on the family years someday. I just know that we will be privileged to say that we had a blast raising you. You have brought us so much joy and our hearts are forever full from getting to be your Mommy and Daddy. We love you to the moon and back!!!!!